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      Why you shouldn’t care about opinions as a mother

      Have you ever been judged by others on your parenting skills for being ‘too modern’, ‘too lazy’, ‘too strict’, etc. ? I know you’re nodding a ‘yes’ right now… but let me tell you something you already know..you’re not the only one.  

      Opinions can have a major impact on you. Being a mom is not easy and negative opinions don’t help our situation. So, the next time you face such a problem, I want you to remember these few points to help you get through the anger and sadness.

      1) Each Mom knows their child best.

      This statement sounds very common but is hardly ever acted on. Moms, we know our children best. We know what’s good for them and what’s not good for them. Besides, motherhood is a never-ending process. We learn and we grow. And, you know? It’s YOUR process, not anyone else’s.

      The bond you share with your children is the strongest and cannot be replicated. If you feel they need to work on something, make them work on it. If you feel they should be allowed to do something that society would frown upon, you allow them. Trust your decisions and do what’s right for your child.

      2) Remember, no mother is perfect. But they try.

      This one is for when negative aunties try to put you down based on a mistake that you may or may not have made in the past. Moms, I want you to take a deep breath and remind yourself that it’s okay to make mistakes. What matters is how you deal with them.

      Everybody makes mistakes, moms too. And that’s okay, as long as you work on it and get better.  

      3) Parenting is not standardized. 

      There may be a hundred rule books and guide books that can help you get a grip on your parenting skills. But not all parenting styles are the same. No one can tell you what style suits you and your children, better than you and your children. 

      There’s a constant debate between having a more modern parenting style vs a more traditional parenting style…but why not use a mix of both? You do you, mom. 

      4) Only you can have control over your emotions. 

      When you find yourself getting irritated over negative opinions, talk to someone about it, or talk yourself through it. I cannot stress how important this rule is – it applies to our topic right now- and also life in general. A person’s opinion will affect you only if you let it. I understand this is easier said than done… but it’s not impossible. I want you to give it a try. 

      The more faith you have in yourself, your children, and your parenting skills, the less you will be affected by others. 

      5) Don’t compare yourself to anyone else.
      Repeat this with me – I WILL NOT COMPARE.

      Maybe your arch-nemesis is trying to show off and make it look like she’s got her shit together. But remember, you don’t know what’s happening behind the curtain. And you shouldn’t even care! Your car, job, or house has nothing to do with your capabilities as a parent.

      Takeaway

      It’s an open secret that no one likes being judged, especially when you have one of the toughest jobs in the world. You know your children best and you know what’s good for their future. Take a deep breath, trust your abilities, and remember these points. We’re here for you mom.

      If you like this article and want to feature your own, or suggest a new topic, type in the comments below.
      Show some love: Follow @opensecretsnacks on Instagram. 

      Have you ever been judged by others on your parenting skills for being ‘too modern’, ‘too lazy’, ‘too strict’, etc. ? I know you’re nodding a ‘yes’ right now… but let me tell you something you already know..you’re not the only one.  

      Opinions can have a major impact on you. Being a mom is not easy and negative opinions don’t help our situation. So, the next time you face such a problem, I want you to remember these few points to help you get through the anger and sadness.

      1) Each Mom knows their child best.

      This statement sounds very common but is hardly ever acted on. Moms, we know our children best. We know what’s good for them and what’s not good for them. Besides, motherhood is a never-ending process. We learn and we grow. And, you know? It’s YOUR process, not anyone else’s.

      The bond you share with your children is the strongest and cannot be replicated. If you feel they need to work on something, make them work on it. If you feel they should be allowed to do something that society would frown upon, you allow them. Trust your decisions and do what’s right for your child.

      2) Remember, no mother is perfect. But they try.

      This one is for when negative aunties try to put you down based on a mistake that you may or may not have made in the past. Moms, I want you to take a deep breath and remind yourself that it’s okay to make mistakes. What matters is how you deal with them. 

      Everybody makes mistakes, moms too. And that’s okay, as long as you work on it and get better.  

      3) Parenting is not standardized. 

      There may be a hundred rule books and guide books that can help you get a grip on your parenting skills. But not all parenting styles are the same. No one can tell you what style suits you and your children, better than you and your children. 

      There’s a constant debate between having a more modern parenting style vs a more traditional parenting style…but why not use a mix of both? You do you, mom. 

      4) Only you can have control over your emotions. 

      When you find yourself getting irritated over negative opinions, talk to someone about it, or talk yourself through it. I cannot stress how important this rule is – it applies to our topic right now- and also life in general. A person’s opinion will affect you only if you let it. I understand this is easier said than done… but it’s not impossible. I want you to give it a try. 

      The more faith you have in yourself, your children, and your parenting skills, the less you will be affected by others. 

      5) Don’t compare yourself to anyone else.
      Repeat this with me – I WILL NOT COMPARE.

      Maybe your arch-nemesis is trying to show off and make it look like she’s got her shit together. But remember, you don’t know what’s happening behind the curtain. And you shouldn’t even care! Your car, job, or house has nothing to do with your capabilities as a parent.

      Takeaway

      It’s an open secret that no one likes being judged, especially when you have one of the toughest jobs in the world. You know your children best and you know what’s good for their future. Take a deep breath, trust your abilities, and remember these points. We’re here for you mom.

      If you like this article and want to feature your own, or suggest a new topic, type in the comments below.
      Show some love: Follow @opensecretsnacks on Instagram. 

      Comments

      • Samridhi Bhansali

        Great Share.

        August 8, 2020
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